With the recent separation of Number 1 and Number 2 there has been a shift in tides around here. It seems that all we needed was 12 hours a week apart. And they have found a new appreciation for each other. New ways to enjoy each others company. Time to feel individually important. Their reinvented love lightens my heart. After all how much bickering over a stupid piece of lego can one take? Not. Very. Much.
Bonds that are undeniable have been strengthened.
The running joke among strangers is to inquire if these two boys are twins. Despite the obvious foot difference between their heads. I always shake my head, hide my eyes that scream "Seriously?" and say "Well not quite".
Even though by chemistry they are not, sometimes I do wonder if they are more then kindred. If there was some sort of left over chemistry from Number 1 that impacted Number 2. They are alike & they are different. Exhibiting text book definitions of their birth order, which makes me cringe and laugh at the same time. Daily I am forced to eat my own words. Damn you parenting experts!
I can only wonder how this will manifest - 10 minutes, 10 month, 10 days, 10 years from now. Will they still love to disagree so much it makes them laugh? Whisper secrets into each others ears? Have to like opposites? Fight over the most ridiculous things? Love each other through the throw downs?
Will their friendship be a bond that is unconditional, undeniable, unbreakable.
It is one of my hopes for them. That what they have stays so genuine. That there won't be any pent up animosity or feelings. After the years we have had and all of them to come I wish to teach them to put their shit on the table.
Please let them learn that.
That life is not long enough to hold those things in. That if you love someone be honest. Always. To know it is not form a place of hurt or revenge. But of openness. Of wanting to make life better. Wanting to love each other more.
Bonds that are undeniable have been strengthened.
The running joke among strangers is to inquire if these two boys are twins. Despite the obvious foot difference between their heads. I always shake my head, hide my eyes that scream "Seriously?" and say "Well not quite".
Even though by chemistry they are not, sometimes I do wonder if they are more then kindred. If there was some sort of left over chemistry from Number 1 that impacted Number 2. They are alike & they are different. Exhibiting text book definitions of their birth order, which makes me cringe and laugh at the same time. Daily I am forced to eat my own words. Damn you parenting experts!
I can only wonder how this will manifest - 10 minutes, 10 month, 10 days, 10 years from now. Will they still love to disagree so much it makes them laugh? Whisper secrets into each others ears? Have to like opposites? Fight over the most ridiculous things? Love each other through the throw downs?
Will their friendship be a bond that is unconditional, undeniable, unbreakable.
It is one of my hopes for them. That what they have stays so genuine. That there won't be any pent up animosity or feelings. After the years we have had and all of them to come I wish to teach them to put their shit on the table.
Please let them learn that.
That life is not long enough to hold those things in. That if you love someone be honest. Always. To know it is not form a place of hurt or revenge. But of openness. Of wanting to make life better. Wanting to love each other more.
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