to write about something that I would rather not.
i do not write about my birth experiences here because I do not believe that they define who i am. make me better & stronger or less of a woman & weaker then anyone else. i am the anti "new age mom", i realize this.
lets speak honestly about it. lets start with the staggering results that we, we woman, are not taking care of ourselves. that 1 out of 5 women who gets pregnant is obese. how is that? how can we expect to have a seamless pregnancy or delivery if we go into the whole endeavor not at our best. lets talk gestational diabetes, hemorrhoids, preeclampsia, physical strain and suffering - just to start us off. we cannot deny the fact that when we treat our bodies & our pregnancies as "free for alls" - there are consequences.
go ahead spout out your "facts" your "percentages" your "this and that". realize that although you think you are helping women by educating them you are force feeding them your opinions and ideals. you are tearing them down rather then supporting them. you, in your lack of confidence, are seeking approval or a gold star for "reading the most" and " knowing the least".
let us not blame everything on the cesarean delivery. for without it we would be stuck in primitive medicine. where infant and mother mortality rate would be saddening. it is the best option when medical complications step in the way. i believe this. i may not support it as the regularly scheduled route; but if labor and delivery are going to be detrimental to either the fetus' or mothers health then it is a blessing.
when in this world of pregnancy, delivery & the after, there needs to be more support, encouragement, quiet. everyone needs to stop talking and start listening. this would cool the waves. calm the storm. relax the heightened sensitivities. provide us all with a starting point that comes form respect and a genuine interest.
it is not about what we have done or could of done.
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